The butterfly effect 

Hi all here’s a writing that has been sitting in my mind for quite sometime just never had the chance to write it out. It is based around a conversation that I had with my gimp on speaker phone while going to SK one Sunday noon yes I know good time for deep subjects. We got onto the subject of whether if you could go back in time and change something would you. He was adamant that he would but then I changed his mind here’s how. I explained that even if we could go back in time and give ourselves advice would we believe ourselves? Also your bad experiences and bad memories shape you as much as your good ones you learn by experience and doing. By this I mean you can’t say to yourself don’t do that as that will happen as you simply won’t believe yourself yes some lessons have to be learnt the hard way unfortunately so you say to yourself I won’t do that again or that didn’t go the right way. With each bad experience you learn it changes you and makes you more wise so if you were to erase the memory or remove the experience you wouldn’t be the person you are at present you would be different whether that would be good or not remains to be seen. This article will be added to at a later date but I guess at present what I trying to say is remove or change the slightest thing in the past you would cause ripples in your present to the future. 

Stay well and happy 

Hugs Harp 


Collars and wedding rings 

Hi all this one wanted to be written after some strange behaviour that I did today. Now everyone by know should know that I’m mostly a top but I’m not entirely dominant so when needing a bit more strength I reached for my silver and onyx collar. I knew that there would be no public in work today so I was ok to wear it and it loves being showed off great workmanship from a friend called Libertine and given to me by my main partner he was also given a small padlock and key for it which he keeps as it’s only locked at Kink events. Once I had it around my neck it’s reassuring weight made me feel better and reminded me I was not alone I was loved and made me smile about both the men. This got me thinking yes I know dangerous thing to do especially in the morning. Do some women think the same of a wedding ring or band do they just look down on it and smile remember the memories of when they received it the guy they received it from and think happily I’m not alone as both pieces of jewellery are given with love if you are aware of Kink you will notice that the silver onyx is a collar pretty much a give away and it states yes this lady belongs to a guy if not aware of Kink its a fancy choker as for the convential wedding ring you look down for it at a ladies or a guys hand and think oh they have someone they can only be a friend to me personally in the normal world I would prefer the cladagh ring as it not only states I’m with someone but it can also state I’m not you can ask. Though my favourite is my collar I will take the reassurance of the weight round my neck to having something on my finger that I could so easily lose as I have lost many a set of glasses from putting them down at least my collar can’t fall off and I can’t put it down anywhere. Though when back on the desk with public again I will have to take it off replace it with my moonstone talisman pendant as too many questions could be asked and my pentagram thankfully fits with both of them. 

Stay well and until next time hugs 


A pondering for today 

Hi all Harp here currently in the midsts of Shark week (period) which started off with a brilliantly sore back before they started on the Monday past. It’s getting better now but it had me wondering literally why is the stronger sex. I would say women as we literally have this for a week or of every month until we are mid fifties and we are also the one that becomes pregnant and bares the child into the world after nine months of carrying it and having hormone fluctuations. It’s times when my back and my joints are sore that make me wonder if men got these also surely there would be time of work and the place would grind to a halt as every woman knows what a guy is like when he’s suffering from man flu. After having a chat with my female colleagues it was agreed that would be the case. So here’s to all of women kind for managing these, pregnancy and bringing up kids at the same time as working and cleaning house we really must be wonder ladies. 

Stay well hugs 

Harp 🙂